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	<title>Comments on: If It Makes You Happy, Then Why Are You So Sad?</title>
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	<description>Keep the suburbs from killing your soul.</description>
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		<title>By: Karen O'Keeffe</title>
		<link>http://www.deathbysuburb.net/2006/01/27/if-it-makes-you-happy-then-why-are-you-so-sad.html/comment-page-1#comment-40</link>
		<dc:creator>Karen O'Keeffe</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Mar 2006 02:05:19 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dave Ramsey (Christian radio host and money &quot;guru&quot;) talks about how young couples get married and society expects them to live at the same quality of life level that their parents took 30 years to achieve.  It&#039;s so true.  A big house, new furniture, a fancy car....and all of the debt that goes with it.  It is so difficult to turn our perspectives around - to be grateful for whatever God has provided us with, not desirous of what He has not.  That mind set makes us &quot;weird&quot;, particularly way out here in the suburbs.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dave Ramsey (Christian radio host and money &#8220;guru&#8221;) talks about how young couples get married and society expects them to live at the same quality of life level that their parents took 30 years to achieve.  It&#8217;s so true.  A big house, new furniture, a fancy car&#8230;.and all of the debt that goes with it.  It is so difficult to turn our perspectives around &#8211; to be grateful for whatever God has provided us with, not desirous of what He has not.  That mind set makes us &#8220;weird&#8221;, particularly way out here in the suburbs.</p>
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		<title>By: Michael Ryan</title>
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		<dc:creator>Michael Ryan</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Feb 2006 20:19:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dave, first off, I&#039;m sitting here cracking up that you go to the salon...give me a minute...whoo...alright, I&#039;m done laughing and I can move on.  

I&#039;m wondering what satisfaction she would have received if she would have had sod installed, painted walls, and all of the nuances of the house of her dreams.  Sod doesn&#039;t do anything for a person.  Paint doesn&#039;t either.  (Although, the psychological critic might argue that colors affect moods...irrelevant.)  What I&#039;m getting at--and I think you were too--is that the trendy, tidy, professional, shiek, hip, yuppie material does nothing more for its owner than its generic competitors.  I take that back.  It does create increased responsibility and a heightened sense of awareness of the safety (or lack thereof) of the material.  

What this young lady doesn&#039;t realize, I presume, is that she wants those things, not for herself, but for others.  And it is not so that others might benefit from these things, but so that others will see the &quot;true&quot; status of who she is.  This creates, again, new responsibility to maintain, upkeep and upgrade the material.  It invokes either a response of jealousy, equality or superiority of other like-minded observers.  If it is jealousy, she feels superior, but has to protect her material.  If it is equality, then she feels mediocre.  If it is superiority, then the inverse reaction is that she feels inferior.  It&#039;s a lose-lose-lose.

Jesus&#039; view of money/material in Scripture has been like a huge mallet, hitting me over and over again since I entered seminary.  I feel inhibited to wear the clothes from my pre-seminary days when I go out, because I may be mistaken as &quot;wealthy.&quot;  That is not a good thing to be mistaken as in some neighborhoods.  But those observe us are judging us.  The litmus test of who we are is, sadly, our material.  How our culture has bewitched us!

Talk about a toxin!  We are what we wear.  We are what we drive.  We are where we live and what we live in.  We are what church we attend.  We are what school district our kids are in.  On and on it goes...like me on this blog.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dave, first off, I&#8217;m sitting here cracking up that you go to the salon&#8230;give me a minute&#8230;whoo&#8230;alright, I&#8217;m done laughing and I can move on.  </p>
<p>I&#8217;m wondering what satisfaction she would have received if she would have had sod installed, painted walls, and all of the nuances of the house of her dreams.  Sod doesn&#8217;t do anything for a person.  Paint doesn&#8217;t either.  (Although, the psychological critic might argue that colors affect moods&#8230;irrelevant.)  What I&#8217;m getting at&#8211;and I think you were too&#8211;is that the trendy, tidy, professional, shiek, hip, yuppie material does nothing more for its owner than its generic competitors.  I take that back.  It does create increased responsibility and a heightened sense of awareness of the safety (or lack thereof) of the material.  </p>
<p>What this young lady doesn&#8217;t realize, I presume, is that she wants those things, not for herself, but for others.  And it is not so that others might benefit from these things, but so that others will see the &#8220;true&#8221; status of who she is.  This creates, again, new responsibility to maintain, upkeep and upgrade the material.  It invokes either a response of jealousy, equality or superiority of other like-minded observers.  If it is jealousy, she feels superior, but has to protect her material.  If it is equality, then she feels mediocre.  If it is superiority, then the inverse reaction is that she feels inferior.  It&#8217;s a lose-lose-lose.</p>
<p>Jesus&#8217; view of money/material in Scripture has been like a huge mallet, hitting me over and over again since I entered seminary.  I feel inhibited to wear the clothes from my pre-seminary days when I go out, because I may be mistaken as &#8220;wealthy.&#8221;  That is not a good thing to be mistaken as in some neighborhoods.  But those observe us are judging us.  The litmus test of who we are is, sadly, our material.  How our culture has bewitched us!</p>
<p>Talk about a toxin!  We are what we wear.  We are what we drive.  We are where we live and what we live in.  We are what church we attend.  We are what school district our kids are in.  On and on it goes&#8230;like me on this blog.</p>
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		<title>By: Administrator</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 08 Feb 2006 00:45:43 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Actually, she was very nervous about that. I asked her when she was going to get married, and she said, &quot;Well, I hope soon.&quot; She was very aware that the sequence was wrong.

I tried to do the old Dr. Phil thing, to ask, &quot;How&#039;s that working for you?&quot;

Great point!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Actually, she was very nervous about that. I asked her when she was going to get married, and she said, &#8220;Well, I hope soon.&#8221; She was very aware that the sequence was wrong.</p>
<p>I tried to do the old Dr. Phil thing, to ask, &#8220;How&#8217;s that working for you?&#8221;</p>
<p>Great point!</p>
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		<title>By: Jim Anderson</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jim Anderson</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 07 Feb 2006 18:43:48 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>...And don&#039;t you come away from an encounter like that with the &quot;salonist&quot;, wishing you had found some way to challenge the acceptedness of just &quot;living together&quot;?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8230;And don&#8217;t you come away from an encounter like that with the &#8220;salonist&#8221;, wishing you had found some way to challenge the acceptedness of just &#8220;living together&#8221;?</p>
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